“Just a reminder: feelings are not facts! However, they are strong and they matter… “ Elizabeth Sockolov Mostly the notion that “Feelings aren’t facts” makes a lot of sense, especially when we are caught up in our ruminations and their
“Have no fear of perfection… you’ll never reach it.” Salvador Dali A friend recently recounted the experience of being criticized by work colleagues for his efforts in heading up a project. True, he recalled, things weren’t as going smoothly as
“There is only one way to change the world; change yourself.” Debasish Mridha We want to change so many things in our lives – especially those irritating people and depressing situations that destroy our peace of mind. As I’ve previously
“Charity begins at home” is a well-worn phrase – the term “charity” commonly defined as generosity, helpfulness, mercy, goodwill, kindness and compassion extended to others. It’s origin is somewhat hazy, but one possibility is the English satirist John Marston’s play
“I have been driven many times upon my knees by the overwhelming conviction that I had nowhere else to go. My own wisdom and that of all about me seemed insufficient for that day.” Abraham Lincoln I believe that,
“Guilt: The gift that keeps on giving.” Erma Bombeck In a previous post (Good Shame/Bad Shame), I posited that in evolutionary terms we are wired for shame. I also proposed that while shame in its intended form is a natural,
“So, you’re a control-freak.” “Oh, I exercise control in all things, Miss Steele.” Anastasia and Christian in Fifty Shades of Grey. Christian Grey, in Fifty Shades of Grey, is the definitive control-freak. He is certainly successful financially but does he
"How people treat you is their karma. How you react is yours." Wayne Dyer One way to prevent, or at least minimize conflict in relationships, I’ve discovered, is not to react emotionally to what other people say or do. Specifically,
In a previous blog post I wrote about the virtues and benefits of minding my own business (MMOB’ing). Of course I stand by everything I said in that post. After all, MMOB’ing is a wise practice that has kept
”We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” Winston Churchill An often heard phrase in addiction recovery programs is that, if you want to keep what you’ve received through your
