“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear…, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” Leo Buscaglia

We relentlessly seek a source, if not the source, of peace and healing.

Mostly, we believe that this source is external to us. However, I contend that there is at least one force, that resides within us – a force that grants us ready access to the Light, to Power.

That force is human kindness and we access it by practicing it.

The Nature of Kindness

What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?”  Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Kindness can be described as a deeply human quality, often defined as the act of being considerate, generous, and compassionate toward others.

At its core, kindness transcends mere actions; it is an attitude, a mindset, and a way of connecting with the world. It arises from empathy — the ability to step into someone else’s shoes — and the desire to alleviate suffering, share joy, or simply make someone’s day brighter.

The nature of kindness lies in its simplicity and its transformative power. It doesn’t demand recognition or reciprocation, and it can manifest in countless ways, big or small — a smile to a stranger, a thoughtful word, or selfless help during challenging times. It is a ripple effect, where one small act of kindness can inspire others and create a chain of goodwill.

Importantly, its transformative healing power not only extends to the receiver but also to the giver.

Thomas Transformed

“Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.”  Barbara De Angelis

Thom, as he is called by his family, has always been a pretty self-contained individual. He usually keeps himself to himself. His hobbies are solo ones – hiking in his local area and the creative arts. While he is in no way aggressive or unpleasant, he doesn’t go out of his way to engage with others outside of close family and a small group of friends.

Being a solo kind of guy worked for him for a long time until life threw him a curve ball – the loss of a dear family member. Post this loss, Thom went even deeper into himself,  so much so that he became depressed and thus even more isolated. Luckily he was able to access a skilled therapist who helped him to navigate his grief. A recovery strategy was suggested – reaching out to others also experiencing grief and loss in a group setting.

The thing that struck Thom about the group was the acceptance, kindliness and understanding that he experienced in this group. He learned a basic principle and that is to offer to others what that you most want to receive. Meaning that if you want gentleness, kindness and understanding, then you need to offer those things to others. In other words, it begins with the giver.

So how did Thom begin his kindness practice? Simply. He greeted friends and even strangers by saying “hello” with a smile on his face; he let others go ahead of him in a queue; he expressed his thanks for services provided in a variety of settings etc.

And so the journey began for Thom.  What surprised him, even with these very modest practices, was how much better he began to feel. With time, his  depression and isolation eased. He even experienced moments of genuine okay-ness and contentment.

And Now Over to You…

In my experience,  even if I do not “feel” it,  when I behave in kindly ways, my actions can shift my internals.

So, what small acts of kindness can you begin to incorporate into your daily life?  For your convenience here’s a list of starter actions for your consideration:

  • Smile at someone — a simple, warm gesture can brighten someone’s day.
  • Hold the door open for the person behind you.
  • Give a genuine compliment —  tell someone they’re doing a great job or that their outfit is amazing!
  • Send a thoughtful message — a quick text or email to check in on someone.
  • Listen attentively — really hearing someone out can be one of the greatest kindnesses.
  • Donate to a charity — whether it’s money, clothes, food, or time.
  • Help carry heavy bags — especially for someone struggling.
  • Let someone go ahead of you in line if they’re in a rush.
  • Support a local business — shopping local helps your community thrive.
  • Be kind to yourself — treat yourself with patience and self-care.

Of course. There are endless ways to sprinkle a little kindness into the world. So, which action or actions might you incorporate into this day?

“I have never met a person whose greatest need was anything other than real, unconditional love. You can find it in a simple act of kindness toward someone who needs help,,, It is the flame that heats our soul, energizes our spirit and supplies passion to our lives.” Elisabeth Kübler-Ross