On the journey to love, desperation makes a rotten traveling partner. Why? Because underneath that desperation is a ton of fear. And fear takes us to bad places. For example, when fear is in the driver’s seat: ♥ We’re more
“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” Carl Jung The Shadow Self is the self that is hidden from view. That place in each of us that holds our secrets –
...Or the Day My Co-dependency Ended The day that my co-dependency ended was the day that I decided that it was okay to be me. It was the day that I decided that who I was was good enough. That
“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.” Michel de Montaigne We so often do not feel safe in this world. We perceive threats coming from every direction. The news media, like our
"She's fire and ice. You fear the cold and crave the burn" J.M. Storm I'm talking, of course, about the Fire and Ice Lover. You are captivated by their enthusiastic loving in one moment and devastated by their cold distance
"Obsession is not love." Chintan Changole So, you are preoccupied with your lover. Your thoughts constantly revolve around this person -- their wishes, their wants. You place their needs before your own, if you even think about your own needs
It’s so often said that it’s almost a platitude: “There is only one reality and that is one you are living in the present moment”. And it is factually hard to refute, isn’t it? Yet, we tend to resist being
In another blog piece I address the issue of Good Shame vs Bad Shame. The “good” shame affect (or emotion) is hardwired into us. It’s an evolutionary survival mechanism that keeps us connected to the group that we rely on
Not all shame is bad, though many rail against it. Certainly shame is painful. The psychotherapist Silvan Tompkins, developer of Affect Theory, defined shame as an “interruption to pleasure” after all. Tompkins also pointed out that, in an evolutionary sense,
“Many of us live in denial of who we truly are because we fear losing someone or something-and there are times that if we don't rock the boat, too often the one we lose is ourselves...It feels good to be
