"Insecurity kills all that is beautiful." Anonymous I’m often asked about how to overcome feelings of insecurity in relationships – especially when the relationship is new. So, let’s explore the issue. To begin with, I believe that it’s important to
The heady first days and months of a relationship are wonderfully exciting. Your heart, mind and body are fully energized and engaged in this new loving experience. You can barely think of anything but your lover. You are so in
“For it is in giving that we receive.” St Francis of Assisi We often hear about the necessity of giving to get. Certainly countless sages speak to this principle. But what does “giving to get” mean? For me, it is
“Man is the creature who wants to be God.” Jean-Paul Sartre I hate to break it to you, but you, me and all of us are not and will never be perfect. We’ve not yet ascended to the level of
“Chronic remorse, as all the moralists are agreed, is a most undesirable sentiment… Rolling in the muck is not the best way of getting clean.” Aldous Huxley I’m going to slightly rephrase the Huxley quote to say: “Being in a
“We try to hide our feelings, but we forget that our eyes speak the truth.” Anonymous We might wish to please others. We even might require ourselves to please others, because we fear that if we don’t, we will be
“If you pay attention to your inner life, you will see that the emergence of choices, efforts, and intentions is a fundamentally mysterious process.” Sam Harris We humans are supposedly created with free will, meaning that we have significant control
Neediness is relationship poison. But rather than focus on the relationship, let’s put the focus on you -- at least to begin with. So, here is the real question for you: am I needy or are my healthy, legitimate needs
Resilience is accepting your new reality… You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you’ve lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that’s good.” Elizabeth Edwards Maybe you (like me and
A promise is a “declaration or assurance that a person will do something or that a particular thing will happen” (dictionary.com). Of course a promise can also apply in the negative – to not do something or that a particular
